I've been house-sitting for my parents while they are in Alaska. In addition to house-sitting, I'm also dog, cat, garden, grandma and lawn sitting as well.
My parents have two dogs - Reba & Lucy. Reba loves to play and enjoys toys. Lucy likes to eat, sleep and be pet.
As a treat, I bought Reba one of those "Chuck It" toys (a curved bat looking piece with a tennis ball - it makes it easy to throw it far).
Reba loved running to fetch the thrown ball, yet giving the ball back was another issue all together.
Reba didn't understand that the game couldn't continue unless she released the ball. After retrieving the ball, she just kept it in her mouth not understanding why I didn't throw it again.
After many rounds of wrestling the ball out of her mouth for another throw, I decided to do something different.
If Reba didn't want to give the ball back then I would go inside the house - where Reba would immediately release the ball. Every time she allowed the ball to drop from her mouth, I would praise her.
Soon, Reba learned to drop the ball after fetching it. All I had to do was say, "Reba, ball."
I realized that Reba responded better to positive feedback rather than a struggle and emphasis on what she was doing "wrong."
As a result of concentrating on positive feedback, Reba learned a new trick - "Reba, ball."
How can you flip your concentration on the negative to the positive? What would happen if you spoke up when things were going "right?"
I'd love to hear your comments and discoveries.